Mental & Emotional Wellness · Miscellaneous

To write or to bleed, that is the question

NB: I know that there are different styles of writing that serve different purposes. This post refers to personal writing for public consumption. It's the last half of the last sentence for me: ...to recreate out of the disorder of life that order which is art. Someone asked: how do you confront your vulnerability in… Continue reading To write or to bleed, that is the question

Sex and Relationships

Bitter Brothas: Who They Are and How to Recognize Them

This is not a sunshine&rainbows post. This post is intended to help women avoid the kind of men who will put them off men.*NB* I expect my readers to be critical thinkers who will not come here saying "not all men who are single over 40..." because duh (insert eyeroll here). If it doesn't apply,… Continue reading Bitter Brothas: Who They Are and How to Recognize Them

Mental & Emotional Wellness · Sex and Relationships

So You’re Doing You. Really?

Most of us have neither the resources, energy, time nor temperament for real vengeance, so if you're hurting you might as well focus on what it takes to heal because the only other alternative (since you can't take revenge) is to stew in the poison of bitterness and resentment. Let me tell you, that shit… Continue reading So You’re Doing You. Really?

Reading & Watching

On Malcolm & Marie. A review

I saw this mentioned somewhere and I went to look at the trailer. https://youtu.be/CGZmwsK58M8 Now I've watched it and I have mixed feelings. NB: if you've been or are currently being verbally/emotionally abused you might find this movie triggering. First of all, Malcolm is gorgeous but too short to be hot (to me). I stan… Continue reading On Malcolm & Marie. A review

Self Love

The Thing About Candles Cannot Be Taught

Many years ago I called myself being romantic and lit candles in my boyfriend's bedroom. It was many, many years before I included candles in my romance repertoire after that. Why? I lit the candles and got nothing but paraffin fumes instead of subtle scent. I was so mad! It was clear to me that… Continue reading The Thing About Candles Cannot Be Taught

Miscellaneous

Is the WhatsApp Update Something to Worry About?

Let's get this out of the way: if you're seriously worried that Zuckerberg (by which I mean FB and WhatsApp) can access your bank details imma need you to back outta here cos your problems are too many. K thanks. Alright, the rest of you. What is the big deal about the WhatsApp update? Simply… Continue reading Is the WhatsApp Update Something to Worry About?

Mental & Emotional Wellness · Self Love

5 Types of People to Leave Behind Right Now

2020 taught us many, many things, among them the making of sourdough bread at home, the efficacy of tigers in making husbands disappear, and the power of the media over the collective consciousness. One of the most important lessons of the year just gone is the importance of curating relationships. The simple fact is that… Continue reading 5 Types of People to Leave Behind Right Now

Miscellaneous

Self Care: 5 Ways To Make Your Practise Really Effective

I've said it before and I'll say it again: selfcare is NOT a synonym for pampering. There's a time for the 'gram ready bathtub&candles situation but if that and a twice-monthly mani-pedi combo is the core of your selfcare practise, I'm sorry to break it to you but you're doing it wrong.Self-care at its most… Continue reading Self Care: 5 Ways To Make Your Practise Really Effective

Mental & Emotional Wellness

Nothing Feels The Same Anymore

Nothing feels the same any more and here's why, and what you can expect. Just don't ask me how I know. One minute you're fine and you think you've got a handle on shit and the next, you're frantically indulging in permissible-but-not-beneficial behaviour like a nap when you should be working, random sex (random and… Continue reading Nothing Feels The Same Anymore