I've been lucky enough to have made friends all up and down and across the colour line, but over the years I've come to the realization that my Black women friends have nurtured my soul and fed my spirit in ways that women of other races have not and could not, not because there is… Continue reading You Betta Recognize That Your Black Women Friends Are Saving Your Life
You. And me.I knew there'd be a story to tell. In your presence my heart settles soft and sweet like my love when you bring it down.You are my peace and my calm. Without you oceans rage and hunger rises; aching need becomes ravening desire. With you seas calm and rivers sweetly flow, desire slaked… Continue reading Poetry Till Climax
NB: I know that there are different styles of writing that serve different purposes. This post refers to personal writing for public consumption. It's the last half of the last sentence for me: ...to recreate out of the disorder of life that order which is art. Someone asked: how do you confront your vulnerability in… Continue reading To write or to bleed, that is the question
This is not a sunshine&rainbows post. This post is intended to help women avoid the kind of men who will put them off men.*NB* I expect my readers to be critical thinkers who will not come here saying "not all men who are single over 40..." because duh (insert eyeroll here). If it doesn't apply,… Continue reading Bitter Brothas: Who They Are and How to Recognize Them
Most of us have neither the resources, energy, time nor temperament for real vengeance, so if you're hurting you might as well focus on what it takes to heal because the only other alternative (since you can't take revenge) is to stew in the poison of bitterness and resentment. Let me tell you, that shit… Continue reading So You’re Doing You. Really?
I saw this mentioned somewhere and I went to look at the trailer. https://youtu.be/CGZmwsK58M8 Now I've watched it and I have mixed feelings. NB: if you've been or are currently being verbally/emotionally abused you might find this movie triggering. First of all, Malcolm is gorgeous but too short to be hot (to me). I stan… Continue reading On Malcolm & Marie. A review
Many years ago I called myself being romantic and lit candles in my boyfriend's bedroom. It was many, many years before I included candles in my romance repertoire after that. Why? I lit the candles and got nothing but paraffin fumes instead of subtle scent. I was so mad! It was clear to me that… Continue reading The Thing About Candles Cannot Be Taught
If I ever feel like doing an episode-by-episode recap of an entire series, Pretend It's A City is the docuseries of choice. I may actually need to rewatch this with a notebook because listen, Fran Lebowitz drops gems of general wisdom and writerly advice that we really shouldn't just let pass like oh, another Netflix… Continue reading Fran Lebowitz
Let's get this out of the way: if you're seriously worried that Zuckerberg (by which I mean FB and WhatsApp) can access your bank details imma need you to back outta here cos your problems are too many. K thanks. Alright, the rest of you. What is the big deal about the WhatsApp update? Simply… Continue reading Is the WhatsApp Update Something to Worry About?
2020 taught us many, many things, among them the making of sourdough bread at home, the efficacy of tigers in making husbands disappear, and the power of the media over the collective consciousness. One of the most important lessons of the year just gone is the importance of curating relationships. The simple fact is that… Continue reading 5 Types of People to Leave Behind Right Now